For centuries Black women´s bodies have been used as a political playground. Everyone claimed ownership over our souls, minds and bodies. This was and is not done through passive acts that spread merely as thoughts. The claiming of our bodies and the entitlement towards our vessels have always been done through violent and highly degrading means. This violence murders Black women every day, it destroys our sanity every day and like a bandit in the nighttime, it steals all sense of personal worth and love that we ought to have for ourselves.

Therefore, reclaiming our bodies as Black Women begins…


I have lost count of the amount of times I have told men I did not want to interact with them (an interaction of sexual nature that is) and they brushed off my opinion and my stance as me supposedly “playing hard to get”. Brushing off my comments is rooted in misogynistic ideologies where you do not respect me enough to respect my decision, and perceive yours as the only valid one. It´s 2019, women are now more liberal and more accepting of their sexuality, so, if a woman wants to engage in a relationship of a sexual nature with…


This time last year, i was in a relationship with a man who cherished my existence in ways i am still unable to fully comprehend. Despite my best lazy efforts to reciprocate this feeling, i never quite reached the intensity through which it was initially transmitted. He broke up with me, in October of the same year, and i did not at the time quite understand the impact of my actions and how they drove him to make that decision.

As i reflected back on my interaction with him i realised that although it was hard to admit, i had…


photo by: Aurélia Durand

Dating is so much more complex when you are a Black woman. Within the dating equation, race is always a factor, we have to be hyperaware of and which never seems to work out to our advantage. The multi-dimensional perception and expectations Black men and men from other races race have of us, serve as barriers to the possibility of healthy, loving relationships.

I remember December of last year, at the University´s formal dinner, when a friend of mine rushed over to me to gossip about a boy she had just met and had found cute. She was determined to…


Dear God,

Thank you for reminding me once again, that you are for me, that when I and all else fail your love and grace will come like sunrise after doomy nights. That you above all have and will always be home, that you will always be a sea of daisies in such a dull world and like catching breaths of fresh air after being in cramped spaces for too long.

The very essence of my soul recognises your divine being, its broken parts forever grateful for your work and effort in putting them back together. Oh, what would…


this skin

this Black skin

a constant reminder of centuries of genocides in a world that kept/keeps silent every time it happens

this Black skin

a symbol of glory and triumph, symbolizing that despite all we conquered!

a skin whose essence is made of honey and gold but who’s story has been summed up to that of slavery and oppression

even though the sea holds more history of us than white minds ever will and even though the genocide continues till today. We have rised, we are rising.

because we are not defined by your crooked ignorance of who…


During a conversation with a male friend not long ago on Blackness and his personal experience of being a Black man in America, he mentioned how he is working on reversing the current status quo. Working to have the current racial structures reversed and replaced with Black people so that we could dominate.

This is not the first time I heard this discourse. I heard this even from Black men who have proven multiple times to be misogynistic, homophobic and elitist. I was automatically filled with worry as I realised what would entail if men like that were in positions…


Cultura de Estupro è um termo utilizado para descrever um ambiente na qual o estupro é predominante e no qual a violência sexual contra as mulheres é normalizada na mídia e na cultura de uma sociedade. Isso inclui a culpabilização da vitima, assedio sexual, e desrespeito ao “não”.

Em Julho de 2015, enquanto sentada na cantina de fora da Universidade Metodista no campus da mutamba, (quem já lá esteve sabe de que cantina estou a falar), uma senhora na faixa etária dos 30 anos se não me engano, decide dar a sua opinião(para já não solicitada) sobre o meu vestido.


This time last year, i was in a relationship with a man who cherished my existence in ways i am still unable to fully comprehend. Despite my best lazy efforts to reciprocate this feeling, i never quite reached the intensity through which it was initially transmitted. He broke up with me, in October of the same year, and i did not at the time quite understand the impact of my actions and how they drove him to make that decision.

As i reflected back on my interaction with him i realised that although it was hard to admit, i had not been providing a safe space for him to be himself, i have not nurtured our interaction, and was quite frankly to a certain extent, toxic.

See, most of us do not grow up in environments where healthy relationships are the norms. Be it our families…


Anti-Blackness as a concept exists in all parts of the world as we know it. It manifests itself in different forms and is more entrenched in some cultures than in others. However, the truth of the matter is that we have been socially conditioned to believe the negative stereotypes surrounding Black people. The 500 plus years of colonialism and imperialism rooted in the dehumanisation of Black people have impacted the way we navigate life today. This history has benefited people of other races, mainly white. Whom despite very few people alive being the ones responsible for those horrendous acts, all…

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